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Ten
Comandments of Female Arousal
- Taking care of her emotions always comes before taking care of the
motion.
- Nothing paves the way to sexual touching faster than non-sexual
touching.
- The more time you spend on arousal, the faster you'll get her
where you want to take her. Also, the longer the action, the
stronger the reaction. Women like a slow and steady build up. The
most memorable experiences are those where somebody took their time.
It is no accident that women's genitals are mysteriously hidden,
because they need the time it takes to properly attend to them. For
her, the journey is at least as important as reaching the final
destination.
- What you do for her is at least as important as who you are. Make
her feel special to you. Hear her out, without trying to
"fix" her. Surprise her for no reason. Appreciate all that
she is and all that she does.
- Women love fantasies every bit as much as men do – look at the
multi billion dollar romance and erotica industry they support. They
just fantasize in different ways. As with sex, they need a proper
build up. Learn her way, introduce your request accordingly, and
she'll be game. We all want to buy, we just don't want to be sold.
- Women love properly performed oral sex at least as much as men do.
Learn her anatomy. Direct stimulation to her clitoral head (which by
the way is only the tip of the iceberg) might be too intense,
especially at first. As well, her clitoris and G-spot (about three
inches inside of her vagina on the tummy side) are supplied by a
different nerve (pudendal), than her vagina (pelvic) – the former
more sensitive and thereby responsible for stronger orgasms. Many
women will only orgasm when you stimulate the areas excited by the
pudendal nerve. Knowing this, appreciate the fact that 90% of these
areas are hidden and therefore require more than just clitoral head
stimulation.
- If you're going to stimulate her manually, make sure your hands
are washed (minuscule amounts of sweat and oily secretions can cause
irritations), your fingernails are neatly clipped (should feel
smooth to your gums), and palms don't feel rough.
- Some women love breast stimulation, others do not. If your lady
loves it, treat her breasts (particularly her nipples) as "on
buttons" and indulge them at least as feverishly through the
final stages as you would through the initial stages. As well, know
that with excitement most women will need greater and greater
intensity of stimulation (there and elsewhere). Those who are not
breast women will appreciate it if you do other things with your
hands and mouth.
- Women's skin is thinner and their sense of smell stronger. So be
gentle with her skin, clean and good smelling with your own.
- No two women are alike. If it isn't working, move onto something
else. Trying harder, faster, longer is as ridiculous as speaking
louder to someone who doesn't understand your language. She knows
her body language better than anyone else, stop and ask her for
directions. And if she's too shy, observe her and the push-pull
rule. If she pushes the body part being stimulated right into you,
she wants more, if she pulls away, she doesn't. And if she wants it,
stay put. Women love even a clumsy effort and will shift around to
make you work on bull's eye. If she shifts, follow her lead, don't
readjust because of where you think you should focus. If you had it
right the first time she wouldn't have shifted. Women often complain
that just as the feeling gets good, the good get going elsewhere.
Whatever you do, make it special. Treat each experience as
exceptional as your first and it will become one.
Rebecca
Rosenblat (aka Dr. Date), sex therapist/advice columnist/published
author is Toronto's hottest offering to the relationship and sexuality
scene. Known for her to-the-point teaching and entertaining delivery,
Rebecca gives her audiences what they crave, through her books,
seminars, interviews, and advice columns. https://www.DrDating.com
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