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The Ten
Comandments of Dating
- Thou shalt place no other distractions before your date. Stay
completely focussed on him/her, maintaining eye contact at all
times, blocking out all else.
- Thou shalt mimic his/her every subtle gesture to subliminally
create a comfort level.
- Thou shalt not intrude into intensely private territory (theirs or
yours), past present or future.
- Thou shalt not give unsolicited advice, nag, or criticize.
- Thou shalt listen (intently) before talking. One never learned a
whole lot by talking.
- Thou shalt not interrupt, cut off, or change topics that mean a
lot to your date but you find boring. Give him/her the courtesy to
finish. It will tell you a lot more about them than the traditional
direct, obvious, and often times threatening line of questioning.
- Thou shalt bring out the best in each other, through a positive
presence, genuine compliments (known for their ten-fold return
whenever given), and masterful flirting which validates us in
delicious ways. This is not the place to win through competition.
Competing (as in - my story, accomplishment, or knowledge is better
than yours) by its very nature leads us into looking for ways to
view the other party as less than ourselves, yet we often use it
foolishly to impress.
- Thou shalt never put down or be hurtful to your date - jokingly or
otherwise - observing the golden rule of treating as you'd like to
be treated.
- Remember, when talking about others, if you can't say something
good, don't say anything at all. Both you and your date will like
you better because of it. As well, your date won't have to worry
about exposing their vulnerable selves to you, only to be talked
down behind their back.
- As you are entitled to your opinions, let your date be entitled to
theirs. Respect who they are, what they're about, and their space.
Rebecca
Rosenblat (aka Dr. Date), sex therapist/advice columnist/published
author is Toronto's hottest offering to the relationship and sexuality
scene. Known for her to-the-point teaching and entertaining delivery,
Rebecca gives her audiences what they crave, through her books,
seminars, interviews, and advice columns. https://www.DrDating.com
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